Who's Helping You Steer Your Ship?
Over the years, I've been fortunate to call many people a friend. A title that shouldn't be used loosely or handed out frequently. If you’re blessed enough to have a true friend, you’ll realize how foolish it is to give that title to just anyone. It’s important to know that everyone can't be your friend. You will meet some people you’re better off keeping your distance from. On the other hand, you can't plan to have friends. Just make an effort to be sociable and friendly, and before you even use the word, they will just enter your life. They will come from different places, at unexpected times, and from all walks of life.
Throughout the years, I’ve always been aware of who came into my space. When a friendship developed, I was keen on judging the quality of that friendship. Things can be smooth sailing and then at a turn, things can get rocky. That’s why the key word in friendship is the word “ship”. Do your friends keep your ship afloat or are they steering your ship into an iceberg? When a storm comes, do your friends stay aboard or do they abandon ship?
When it came to friendship, I asked myself three questions. We all know a small leak can sink the “ship” in a friendship.
“Are you laughing more than crying?”
“Are you smiling more than frowning?”
“Are you looking towards the horizon or are you watching your back?”
These questions should be easy to answer. Keep it simple — have a good time, enjoy life, survive the storms and cross the ocean.
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